The gift of presence

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The gift of presence is a gift to oneself. It’s bringing mindfulness to the everyday. The cultivation of mindfulness has its roots in Buddhism, but most religions include some type of prayer or meditation technique that helps shift your thoughts away from your usual preoccupations toward an appreciation of the moment and a larger perspective on life.

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Finding inner peace in the hubbub of daily life can be challenging. Finding that point where mindfulness meets the moment is called presence.  Keep with me here, this isn’t just woo woo stuff, this can be  the regular activity you already do. The one where there is a natural quiet associated with it. You know, gardening, running, yoga, swimming, that sort of thing. Even chores!

You see, bringing presence and mindfulness to the most regular activity helps us to focus and enjoy the activity more. When we rush things just to get the job done we are already moving onto the next task, there is no appreciation for the job in hand and we are not present. You can cultivate mindfulness by focusing your attention on your moment-to-moment sensations during everyday activities. This is done by single-tasking—doing one thing at a time and giving it your full attention. As you brush your teeth, prepare your meals, or eat an apple, slow down the process and be fully present as it unfolds and involves all of your senses.

If we are not present there is no enjoyment and if there is no enjoyment what is the point? Do you see? Being present gives you a sense of personal responsibility.

How often have you read a book and then not been able to remember what you read?  How often have you had a conversation with someone only to realise you have been thinking about someone or something else?

Be present minded not absent minded because when you are present you are free. Some experts believe that mindfulness works because it helps people to accept their experiences—including painful emotions—rather than react to them negatively

There are many benefits of being present. One of them is that our memory is strong when we are in the present.

Do you recall times that are very clear in your memory? Like a first love, a great holiday, time with a close friend. These were moments when you felt safe.

Many people are fully present and safe when they first wake up. The reason is they have “slept” on their challenges. Then they wake up and simply “know” what’s right for them to say or do.

How often have you read a book and then not been able to remember what you read?  How often have you had a conversation with someone only to realise you have been thinking about someone or something else?

Be present minded not absent minded because when you are present you are free. Most people take at least 20 minutes to settle the mind, so this is a good place to start. Be realistic in your approach and use mindfulness to help you find the key element in happiness.

Done correctly, mindfulness will allow you to decrease your stress and anxiety, minimize the amount of time that you spend feeling overwhelmed, and help you appreciate each small moment as it happens. How will you practice the gift of presence?

Written by: Mimi

 

 

 

 

 

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